Last Chance

It was a song I listened to when I was in high school.

Last Chance was written by a seminarian. And this song inspired me to enter a Catholic seminary and study for priesthood. The song taught me that I will not live forever and that this could be my last day, my last chance to show my love — to God and to people around me.

What if this is my last day? What if this is my last chance?

I do not remember the lyrics anymore. I do not remember who wrote it. But I will never forget its message. Last Chance serve as a constant reminder that I in everyday, I must give my love and whatever I can do best — because this day could be my last chance.

Last Chance…it is always there to remind me to live this day as if this is my last.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Always Something There to Remind Me.”

Jef Menguin

I am not afraid to die…but not now.

Five people died that day.

At around 1pm, barely two hours after the bus I was riding left Manila for Banawe, an explosion woke me up. I initially thought that the sound came from the glass windows. Before we left from Manila, the bus driver reminded us to cover the glass windows with curtains. There were reports of drug addicts throwing stones at bus windows.

I looked for my companions. They were crying. They were on the floor with heads bowed down. Then I heard another explosion. That’s from a gun. And the man who was standing right in front of me declared that a hold up. He told us not to look up…and nobody did for everyone was afraid.

One companion was crying loud. She’s holding in her hands a rosary. She was praying loud,crying, and panicking. I went to her, told her to keep her head bowed, and calm herself.

We will be fine….

She sat quietly.

I heard the angry voice of the man standing beside me. I saw the barrel of his gun. It was not pointed on me, but that was enough to keep me quiet.

A man at the end of the bus shouted something I did not understand. Then there was another. He said that there was a policeman inside. Then we heard gun shots…one..two..three…four…countless.

Endless.

Until the robbers left. Babies and women were crying. Two women begged the driver to speed up. Their husband were shot. A mother was screaming. Her baby was shot too… and she did not survive.

It took us thirty minutes to reach the nearest hospital but it seemed like forever. The bus at 150 km/h seemed so slow.

Five people died that day.

The travel from Manila to Banawe was 12 hours.  People were waiting for us. They’ve heard of what happened to us over the radio.

I rested from a while. I needed to regain my energy and start soon. I was two-hour late for my stress management workshop.

I was on a veranda and from where I was I could see the beautiful landscape of the famous Banawe Rice Terraces.  Then I told myself…

I am not afraid to die…but not yet.


In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Finite Creatures.”

Work Under Pressure

I am reading Life Is Not A Stress Rehearsal by Loretta LaRoche. It is a good read. It reminds us that we only need to listen to our inner grandmother. For your grandmother knows how to handle stress.

Stress management is a modern day invention. This is why companies offer stress management seminars to employees to increase productivity. In my workshops, encourage participants to identify the real enemy. Stress is champion’s friend. Stress is necessary to be truly alive. Stress must be celebrated.

Of course, not everyone really believe at once. This is why I tell stories of stressful situations of “easily handled” by people who know.

Most people panic when there is fire. But you do not expect a fireman to panic too, do you? He must ready for that. Same situation; different mindset and capability. Those who do not know what to do see themselves as victims. Those who know what to do see themselves as problem solvers.

And this is how I handle myself. I can work under pressure because I know precisely that it is during such times that I must give my full attention to the job. The more that I feel the tension, the more that I feel that joy of making quick decisions.

Stress, or stressful situation, is a game, a game we can all play and win.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “The Heat is On.”

A child changes almost everything.

That’s true for me and JC.

A friend said that I am still “the stubborn classmate” she knew when we were in high school. I always stick with my decisions. I don’t care what people say. I just do what I think is right.

But no longer today. I cannot simply argue just to make a point, to make people suffer and teach them lessons. I can no longer throw caution to the wind. With JC around, I know that every action has consequences. Every action I will make has an impact on his future. Today, I act not just for myself but also for my baby boy.

Intelligent people can easy understand this. But only parents get to experience this.

A child changes almost everything.

Live Your Life

Most people will predict your future according to their failures. Make no mistake…many of them are nice people and they meant well. But do not allow them to map out your future for you.

Why?

They are ignorant on you. What they have are impressions of what you can and cannot do. But only know what’s up their in your head and who you are within your heart. Live your life.

Thank these people every time they try to “protect” and “guide” you. Learn from their mistakes. Then create a path which others can soon follow.

Cheers,

Jef Menguin

Not Aiming for the Second Life

It does not matter whether reincarnation is true or not.

Once is enough for me. And the once that I have, I must fully lived. I do not have time for idle chats. I will not waste my time thinking like a criminal. Or prostitute my time and skills to get pleasure that won’t last.
I love to eat, but I do not have to eat everything simply because I can.

I love my health, but I won’t waste my time sleeping more than what I need to get my body and mind function. One day I will sleep long.

But not for now.

Not for the next twenty, thirty, or forty years.

I will make the most of this one life — and live it to the fullest – because I am not hoping for the second one.

Jef Menguin

When doing it now is the right thing…

Then by all means, do it now.

This morning, I wrote a blog post on Why People Keep What They Hate and I know that some people can relate.

This morning, I uninstalled the Candy Crush App from my Ipad. As long as it is there, I will keep on playing it and I will be spending my hours on that instead on the more important things. Never mind that I only have 9 more challenges left before I get to complete the whole game.

This morning, I washed the dishes. No, I do not hate it really. But I tend not to do it because someone else will wash the dishes for me.

Yesterday, I decided not to be dependent on people even on small things like washing. Whatever I can do today, I must do it now.

Deleting Candy Crush will not take a minute.

Doing the small things, like washing dishes will not take more than two minutes. But most people, including me, delay decisions. What a waste of time!

When you are going to do something, big or small, do it now.

Jef Menguin

P.S. When you are not in the mood to do something…do it. Action stimulates motivation.

Payment for Time Management

Red face is an understatement. How I wish I wasn’t there.

Six years ago, I walked into a room with 42 eye-balls watching me as I entered the door. I was one hour late. It was a time management seminar.

And I was the speaker.

The reason: It was a busy week – I had five consecutive training days. The day before, I came from out of town training – travelled by bus for seven hours. I was home around 3am.

I forced myself not to sleep. But I was tired. I woke up 8am and the seminar was supposed to start around 8am.
Yes, the show went on. The participants said they were satisfied.

But I had to return their payment. That’s what I have to pay for my own time management seminar.

Cheers,

Jef Menguin

Link: Red Face

Change. Create. Collaborate.

I will be working on three experiments for the month of September 2013.

The first is change. I will have a new resident in Antipolo. I will three new employees who are all very capable. There will new public seminars my organization will offer to the market. There will also be changes in lifestyle designs.

My blog, Tsinelas Leadership will not only change. I will also talk more about change and why we need to create and embrace change.

The second word is create. There will new things that I am up to start in the month of September. You will find out that I am
1. Launch a leadership podcast
2. Produce more videos
3. Create a portal Training in the Philippines.
4. Create a portal Team Building in the Philippines.
5. Start a new fitness program.

The third is collaborate. I recognize the power of collaboration and I am looking for more opportunities to collaborate with organizations who may complement our programs. I am also looking to work with more consultants for Starfisher Asia.

The month of August was great. I am expecting the month of September to be much much better.

I hope to see you soon.

Jef Menguin

Seminars in the Philippines

Starting April 2013, I will once again conduct seminars for the public. I will start with public speaking workshops and supervisory leadership workshops.

Workshops that REALLY work.
These seminars in the Philippines are meant to provide what the Filipino professional needs to be world class professionals. We begin with where they are and the programs are tested to help them get the most of seven-hour each day program.

Some seminars are done by one day, others by two-days, and other seminars are for one week.

Remarkable experiences.
We design remarkable experiences. That is what participants to these seminars will surely experience. My project is to create the standard of what learning can be in the Philippines.

I have seen how some international trainers conduct their seminars. Some are filled with information you seem to be drinking on a fireman’s hose.

Others use smoke screens and fantastic fireworks that will bring you delight and excitement but no learning.

We want to provide an experience that will bring them to the mountain top.

Mountain Top Experience
This is why I am choosing Cloud 9 as the first venue of my seminars in the Philippines. Cloud 9 is a hotel located in Antipolo City. It can accommodate 260 people and has 6 function rooms.

I am also eyeing venues in Baguio, Tagaytay, and Sagada.

Mountain tops bring an experience you cannot easily get from the highly urbanized areas in Metro Manila.

Join us
You can find your way to the mountain top. If you want to know more about our seminars, I encourage you to join me. Write an email to inspire@jefmenguin.com