A child changes almost everything.

That’s true for me and JC.

A friend said that I am still “the stubborn classmate” she knew when we were in high school. I always stick with my decisions. I don’t care what people say. I just do what I think is right.

But no longer today. I cannot simply argue just to make a point, to make people suffer and teach them lessons. I can no longer throw caution to the wind. With JC around, I know that every action has consequences. Every action I will make has an impact on his future. Today, I act not just for myself but also for my baby boy.

Intelligent people can easy understand this. But only parents get to experience this.

A child changes almost everything.

Live Your Life

Most people will predict your future according to their failures. Make no mistake…many of them are nice people and they meant well. But do not allow them to map out your future for you.

Why?

They are ignorant on you. What they have are impressions of what you can and cannot do. But only know what’s up their in your head and who you are within your heart. Live your life.

Thank these people every time they try to “protect” and “guide” you. Learn from their mistakes. Then create a path which others can soon follow.

Cheers,

Jef Menguin

Not Aiming for the Second Life

It does not matter whether reincarnation is true or not.

Once is enough for me. And the once that I have, I must fully lived. I do not have time for idle chats. I will not waste my time thinking like a criminal. Or prostitute my time and skills to get pleasure that won’t last.
I love to eat, but I do not have to eat everything simply because I can.

I love my health, but I won’t waste my time sleeping more than what I need to get my body and mind function. One day I will sleep long.

But not for now.

Not for the next twenty, thirty, or forty years.

I will make the most of this one life — and live it to the fullest – because I am not hoping for the second one.

Jef Menguin

When doing it now is the right thing…

Then by all means, do it now.

This morning, I wrote a blog post on Why People Keep What They Hate and I know that some people can relate.

This morning, I uninstalled the Candy Crush App from my Ipad. As long as it is there, I will keep on playing it and I will be spending my hours on that instead on the more important things. Never mind that I only have 9 more challenges left before I get to complete the whole game.

This morning, I washed the dishes. No, I do not hate it really. But I tend not to do it because someone else will wash the dishes for me.

Yesterday, I decided not to be dependent on people even on small things like washing. Whatever I can do today, I must do it now.

Deleting Candy Crush will not take a minute.

Doing the small things, like washing dishes will not take more than two minutes. But most people, including me, delay decisions. What a waste of time!

When you are going to do something, big or small, do it now.

Jef Menguin

P.S. When you are not in the mood to do something…do it. Action stimulates motivation.

Payment for Time Management

Red face is an understatement. How I wish I wasn’t there.

Six years ago, I walked into a room with 42 eye-balls watching me as I entered the door. I was one hour late. It was a time management seminar.

And I was the speaker.

The reason: It was a busy week – I had five consecutive training days. The day before, I came from out of town training – travelled by bus for seven hours. I was home around 3am.

I forced myself not to sleep. But I was tired. I woke up 8am and the seminar was supposed to start around 8am.
Yes, the show went on. The participants said they were satisfied.

But I had to return their payment. That’s what I have to pay for my own time management seminar.

Cheers,

Jef Menguin

Link: Red Face

Change. Create. Collaborate.

I will be working on three experiments for the month of September 2013.

The first is change. I will have a new resident in Antipolo. I will three new employees who are all very capable. There will new public seminars my organization will offer to the market. There will also be changes in lifestyle designs.

My blog, Tsinelas Leadership will not only change. I will also talk more about change and why we need to create and embrace change.

The second word is create. There will new things that I am up to start in the month of September. You will find out that I am
1. Launch a leadership podcast
2. Produce more videos
3. Create a portal Training in the Philippines.
4. Create a portal Team Building in the Philippines.
5. Start a new fitness program.

The third is collaborate. I recognize the power of collaboration and I am looking for more opportunities to collaborate with organizations who may complement our programs. I am also looking to work with more consultants for Starfisher Asia.

The month of August was great. I am expecting the month of September to be much much better.

I hope to see you soon.

Jef Menguin

Seminars in the Philippines

Starting April 2013, I will once again conduct seminars for the public. I will start with public speaking workshops and supervisory leadership workshops.

Workshops that REALLY work.
These seminars in the Philippines are meant to provide what the Filipino professional needs to be world class professionals. We begin with where they are and the programs are tested to help them get the most of seven-hour each day program.

Some seminars are done by one day, others by two-days, and other seminars are for one week.

Remarkable experiences.
We design remarkable experiences. That is what participants to these seminars will surely experience. My project is to create the standard of what learning can be in the Philippines.

I have seen how some international trainers conduct their seminars. Some are filled with information you seem to be drinking on a fireman’s hose.

Others use smoke screens and fantastic fireworks that will bring you delight and excitement but no learning.

We want to provide an experience that will bring them to the mountain top.

Mountain Top Experience
This is why I am choosing Cloud 9 as the first venue of my seminars in the Philippines. Cloud 9 is a hotel located in Antipolo City. It can accommodate 260 people and has 6 function rooms.

I am also eyeing venues in Baguio, Tagaytay, and Sagada.

Mountain tops bring an experience you cannot easily get from the highly urbanized areas in Metro Manila.

Join us
You can find your way to the mountain top. If you want to know more about our seminars, I encourage you to join me. Write an email to inspire@jefmenguin.com

The Power of Presence

Presence makes a person taller and bigger.

I am still on my 21 day challenge on discovering and making presence, engagement, and network. I am making more engagement and I have a larger network now. It is presence that I am constantly working on every day.

I saw presence yesterday while watching the  Balancing Act of the African Acrobats. Every member of the team has immense energy and confident. They know what they were doing and the audience felt their presence.

I still have six more days. I have a lot to share. And I will.

Jef Menguin

 

Keynote and Guest Speaking

My schedule for next three months will be full very soon for speaking engagements. As of now, I am scheduled to keynote three annual assemblies. I am a new hand in keynote speaking. I have to much to learn and the opportunity for experimentation and discovery is great.

I also observed that there is an increasing number of invitation for me to be a guest speaker. For the last two weeks, I got invitation from five universities. Instead of creating pocket speeches for this invitations, I came up with written reflections on how and why guest speakers must prepare. You will find all of these posts in Guest Speaking 101.

Since the month of March and April are a season for commencement exercises , I wrote five posts on how you can become an effective commencement speaker. I will be posting them next week. One day you will be invited to deliver your commencement speech too. You will likely to benefit from these tips which I gave to those who came to me for coaching sessions.

Jef Menguin

 

 

Be a good person

It is my responsibility to be a good person.Jessica Rosario

There are times when you want to get even and make others suffer for showing you disrespect. There will come a time that those people who ignore you today will find themselves begging for your help. There will come a time when those who mock you will make you their lord and master. There will come a time…

And when that time comes, always remember that it is your responsibility to be a good person.

You do not have to get even. You are already on top. Do not stoop down. Help them get up and pull them to where you are.

You do not have to make them beg for your help. Help because that’s how you are. Thank them for  pushing you to do your best and get yourself to the top. God somehow uses people in mysterious ways.

Whoever you will become in the future, always remember that it is your responsibility to be a good person.

Jef Menguin