Last Saturday I conducted a teambuilding workshop for the officials of a Barangay in Pasay. I have conducted workshops for government agencies, but never for barangay officials. One friend told me that the most difficult group to handle are barangay officials. He said that many are know-it-alls, people who seemed to know all the answers and reasons why answers cannot be done. That comment was of course not encouraging.
The teambuilding was scheduled to start by 8.30am but the only two participants arrived on time. I was informed that there are 25 expected participants. The rest, 17 more, arrived five before ten. Not an encouraging introduction. And some others came before lunch time.
Three minutes after I started my self-introduction (there was no program and no one to introduce me), I got interruptions after interruptions. But that was not a problem at all. Having handled children before, I know how to handle interruptions. Sometimes adults act like children too. And I do understand why people interrupt me.
Before I started the afternoon session, one participant approached me. This was after I showed them the video on Susan Boyle’s audition in Britain’s Got Talent. She said that some of them first thought there was nothing they can learned from me. I simply smiled. That was not new to me. I have heard the same comment for the last five years. And I know that it won’t take them half an hour to realize that they are going to experience something different, moving, and inspiring.
They are used to lecturers. They are used to being bored by people with great credentials on paper. They are used to someone being introduced as the best in his field.
My friends said that it is best to wow the audience with your credentials. It is best to wow them with your introductions. It is best to start with a bang. And end with a big bang.
I don’t do any of these.
Please don’t tell people about how great I am. Don’t lie to them or you will not get my trust. Two weeks ago, someone introduced me as a motivational speaker, sought after by companies, booked for the whole 2010, that we are friends, and that he has known me for a long time. I can accept that I am a motivational speaker, but not the rest. That guy has seen me only twice for the last 30 days, has not seen me in action, and has no idea on how I conduct my seminars in metro manila or anywhere in the Philippines. I don’t want to start my seminars with a lie. I don’t want to start the seminar with ego boosting. Or even self-affirmation just to get my participants to listen. He reminded me of that marketing manager of a five star hotel whom I met last month. He said that he heard so many good things about me. Having heard that line for a hundred times, I asked him to mention one good thing he heard about me. Of course, he was not able to give one. He cannot even pronounce my name correctly. These guys must have read Dale Carnegie but never truly understood him.
Back to the team building workshop. During my icebreaker activity, some of them commented that they were experiencing that activity for the first time. And they were immensely enjoying themselves. Fore every activity I heard some of them said that they were learning a lot. They showered me with praises. Yes, praises still make me feel good. But I want you to know that I am more concerned about what they feel about themselves. My goal is to be invisible during my sessions and focus the spotlight on my workshop participants. The workshops are not about me. It is about them. I still look for the spotlight; Slowly, I am learning to surrender the spotlight to my workshop participants. I have directed plays before. And making people shine has always been in my DNA. I was just mis-educated and I am unlearning many things I have learned from others. It is when we are invisible that people start to feel us.
Out there seminar participants are spectators. On Friday, the same participants attended a session on Good Governance facilitated by the DILG. The told me they were bored to death. I was not surprised. Everywhere you have seminars that kill your brains and enthusiasm slowly. Speakers present mind-boggling theories, but don’t care about you. I have also bored some participants (and many of my students) in the past. After all, I have learned teaching from many boring teachers. But I don’t blame anyone; my learning is my responsibility. During the past five years, I taught myself to change my way of thinking, to set a high standard for myself, and to do things differently everyday. One powerful principle (not technique) I have learned is to make the participants shine during my seminars and workshops. Breathe life into them. Turn your participants from spectators to stars of the show.
Again, I expect someone to say that my principles are wrong. I don’t debate with theories. Bring my seminars to your organization, or bring your employees to my public seminar.
I can speak only from experience.
Thinking about this makes me happy today. And I thank God for giving me the opportunity to share my life to the barangay officials.
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